Truth… Stranger Than Fiction: By Dave Pearce
A lot has been made over the past several years about “the Golden Years.” But as I get ever closer to the Golden Years, I am beginning to wonder just how much truth there is to what I have been hearing. It only stands to reason that the longer something is around, the better the chance that something is going to go wrong with it. I am beginning to learn about a lot of these things both first and second-hand. In the car business, the primary reasons that people choose to trade in their older cars for a newer one is that they worry that something major could go wrong with it because it is getting older. The second most popular reason is that the body become dinged and dented and they get tired of it and want to get something shiney and new. Life is a lot like that. As we get older, chances are things are going to go wrong. The worse the problem, the more expensive the fix. However, trading our bodies in for a newer model is just not an option so we are stuck with attempting to “drive this one till the wheels fall off of it.”
As I continue the aging process, it seems like I am spending more time at hospitals and funeral homes. Seems like scarcely a week passes that either someone I know and love becomes ill or I lose a friend. Just in the past few weeks, my father-in-law has had his coloon removed and got home from the hospital just in time for my mother-in-law to go in with a blood clot in her leg. My 87-year-old aunt in Cincinnati was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and had surgery just this week. My friend Susie Carroll is fighting cancer as is a number of other people I know and respect. One of my dearest friends lost her battle with cancer just last week while another has been diagnosed with another type of cancer on her face. She’s looking at a long hard fight.
It’s a fact that we are not going to get out of this world alive so as I get older, I like to see friends and families enjoying each others’ company. Those times that we get to spend with the people who mean the most to us are infrequent and usually don’t last very long. I was a party to one of those times on Sunday and it made a lasting impression on me.
As Kevin Wassmer was making history by winning his tenth Evansville Courier City Golf Championship, I stood back and watched as friends and family gathered at the Evansville Country Club. I watched as people enjoyed the warm August weather and took the opportunity to watch history being made. Members of Wassmer’s North Posey High School golf team walked all 18 holes wearing shirts in support of their coach and their friend. Kevin’s entire family was on hand to watch as his steady play earned him his record title. His mother and father watched tearfully as he sunk the final putt on the 18th hole and the emotions of that moment began to show.
Tears of mixed emotions flowed down the face of the ever-steady and tough Wassmer as he completed his round. It was one of those once-in-a-lifetime precious moments the Wassmers were able to share as a family. I felt honored just to witness the event, as did several others I heard commenting as many hung around long after the trophy had been presented.
But despite the fact that the older we get, the better the chance of something going wrong with us, we have no guarantees of tomorrow. As a matter of fact, we have no guarantees of another moment. So please, do yourself a favor and enjoy those times you get to spend with your friends and family. Look for the good in one another. There’s plenty of people to point out the bad in each and every one of us.
Do yourself and all your acquaintances a favor. Enjoy your time with them and look for the best in them. Don’t be afraid to point out the positives.
It won’t hurt a thing. There’s another old saying that I hear repeated once in awhile but it seems like I don’t hear it as much anymore. “It is better to give than to receive.” I think we have done a poor job of passing that message down from the last generation to this one. But if we can show the younger generation the joy that comes with giving, we will be doing them a great service. They are smart enough to pick up on things. If you show them the joy that comes with doing things for others, you will be giving them an opportunity that they otherwise would not have had. So like I have also heard…
Do it for yourself, but also for them!